Monday, April 5, 2010

The Heart of the Matter - Forgiveness #fb

Forgive, even though the person doesn't deserve it.

Life is painful. Oh, I know that when we think back on our life, the good times quickly come to mind. The good times are a wonderful treat, but they don't test you, or help you grow. Pain causes growth. The heavy weight that causes the muscle to retreat, or break down under the pressure, causes those muscles to get stronger. That's just the way it is. Our bodies have an amazing way of healing itself, but sometimes we need to take action to heal emotional hurts.

Forgiveness is a gift that you can give, even if the other person doesn't take it, acknowledge the wrong, or return the favor.

It's a gift you can give to someone that never asked for it, or never deserved it - because this gift you give away, can end up healing you. Keep in mind, this can be with just you. Sometimes the people we need to forgive can't, or shouldn't be contacted. What I am discussing here is just within yourself.

** Only for the Brave -
You may want to take out a piece of paper and write down those you need to forgive. Let go of the weight and the emotional chains that unforgiveness brings, then rip up and throw away the paper. It can be life changing, but maybe you aren't ready for that yet.

People aren't perfect, especially the ones closest to us. Our family, friends, spouse, significant others will hurt us. We can't change others, but we can learn new actions (and reactions) for ourselves. Forgiveness is tough to give. Revenge feels 'right,' but it only extends the hurt. Forgiveness feels 'crazy' to us, but it can disengage you from the hurt. Forgiveness is freedom. Living free of unforgiveness, bitterness and anger is its own gift. Just try to forgive, often.

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Shell said...

This is something that I struggle with. I feel like I do forgive, but I can't forget. And that is its own kind of poison.

Daisygirl said...

yep the art of forgiveness! One of the hardest things in the world. I have learned though it does help heal you even if those around you don't accept or forgive you back! But sometimes you need to just be angry for awhile because I think if you forgive someone too soon then nothing will come of it, does that make sense?

I'd love it if you'd send this post to my sister in law her name is.... just kidding!

Lucy said...

Some men are dumb, but not ALL the time. Thank you.

Lisa B. said...

I find it gets harder to forgive when it's the same person I'm forgiving over and over. Anyone else feel that way?

middle child said...

Thanks for the post. I have forgiven someone but avoid contact to protect myself emotionally. I do this to avoid getting sucked back in. But the forgiving is very freeing.

Farmers Wife said...

I think it takes a big person to forgive..saying that I would find it very very hard to forgive someone who had hurt my child....

Men Are Dumb. I Are One. said...

Thanks for the insightful comments. There are lots of parts to this concept, but it is important to bring up. Many times, the best way to work through it, is to talk about it.

Forgetting, after forgiving is tough.

Forgiving the same person over and over is tough, too. I remember, that I hurt people too, alot and I *try* to continue to forgive others, because I need the same thing.

There are situations that would make it very tough to forgive someone like that. I understand, but maybe over time it can be possible.

Life is a journey, and so is the act of forgiveness. I know there is alot of pain and hurt in our lives, but sometimes forgiveness can bring some relief to some of it.

Hang in there, as we walk and grow in this journey of life.

Running Diva Mom said...

love your blog title!!!